Blogging and Motherhood: Finding Balance and Setting Boundaries03 May 2010
A few weeks ago, I was up late worrying while my family slept. You see, I am a worrier and an expert fretter. Hours can go by without my notice while I stew about something. And I had something on my mind that night, which meant that sleep wasn’t going to happen. I tried to be productive with my sleeplessness, but I was mostly sitting by my desk, thinking in silence. That was, until I heard my chat application beep at me. It was Hilary. (Bless you, Hilary, for talking with me that night. Ironic that the very medium that I was worrying about brought me a heaven-sent conversation.)
I expressed to Hilary my worries. Was I missing out on playing with children because I was busy tweeting about what I was eating? I didn’t want to be like that. We talked about Twitter and Facebook and Formspring. We both decided that we needed to reevaluate our time. At the end of the conversation Hilary said, “Because of our chat tonight, I'm going to set a limit for myself.” The next day, she canceled her Twitter and Formspring account. She’s inspiring. I followed her lead.
Through all this refocusing, I have found true joy in real life and am at peace with my virtual reality. Right now, I::
:: don’t tweet, formspring or buzz. I didn’t know how much time I wasted on those sites until I deactivated them! And, miraculously, I don’t miss them one bit.
:: whittled down my google reader subscriptions. In the past, it was common for me to find 150+ unread posts every morning. Now it averages 15-20. It was hard to make so many cuts, but I had to limited it to blogs that inspire.
:: refuse to plan my life for my blog. My friend Christina and I agreed over dinner last month that you can tell which blogs plan a party just so they can post about it. I refuse to be that way. My posts will be genuine me. I will party because I like to party.
:: am determined to enjoy every second with my children. Even if my blog suffers. In the end, I know I will be grateful that I gave up chatting with online besties to be a good mother.
I am not writing this to say this is what all mothers should do; every situation is different. But, for me, deleting those social marketing accounts was a relief. I am now present; ready to serve my children. (I even have more time for crafting!) I am determined to make these good days.
For now, blogging will be my one and only online hobby. You can find me HERE and HERE.